You know the perfect family that seems to have it all, the perfect marriage, the perfect children, the beautiful house, the new car and what seems to be a never ending supply of money!
The question is, could there actually be an idealistic family like the Joneses? So why do people feel so compelled to keep up, compete or try and outdo each other.
A number of years ago, I was chatting to an acquaintance of my Husbands. He was a High School dropout, who now owns a number of businesses, a few rather large houses and a bundle of cash. Whilst chatting, I mentioned that he must be really proud of how successful he was. His answer knocked me back a step and it has never left me. He said, “I will only be successful when I have more time to spend with my family”. Wow!! This sparked an entirely different thought process towards what we automatically consider to be perfect and successful. What is success? Is it when you have all the material things that money can buy, or is it having an abundance of the things money can’t buy?
It is human nature to admire and envy what others have, but instead of letting it become an obsession, a greened eye monster that takes over your being, or something that makes you feel inadequate. Try to look at it with a different perspective.
Here are a few points on how you can live a life that is better than the Joneses.
First of all, ask yourself the following questions.
- What is it that the Jones have that you want?
- Would it be possible to have it?
- What would you have to do to get it?
- Is it really worth it?
By answering the following questions, you are giving yourself a goal, checking if the goal is realistic and then putting together an action plan.
This thought process will turn envy or jealousy into a positive, and help you work towards achieving what you want out of life. It will also help you to determine what is important to you. You might not care what car you drive but all you want is a big ass T.V.
Ask yourself, why you would like something other than what you have? Is it a must have or a lust have, they are so different, sometimes they are very hard to tell apart.
Always keep in mind that everything in life revolves around a shift of values.
The Joneses may have a brand new flashy car, but they don’t have any flexible income to go away on holiday.
The Joneses may have lots of money, but their life revolves around always maintaining the correct image, even if it is not the image that they want to portray by choice.
The Joneses may look like they have the perfect family, but their house is just that a house and not a home, their kids feel the pressure of achieving instead of being able to just be kids, and Mrs. Jones always looks so happy on the outside but nobody can see what is going on in the inside.
The thing is that it is good to admire other people, as this is what drives us to be better. The problem comes when the admiration becomes an obsession and it consumes you. Before you want to be like the Joneses, have a deep look at what their shift in values are and then decide if it is still what you want and whether it is worth it in the end. Money can’t buy you love or happiness, don’t get me wrong, it sure does help, but what is more important is balance. The ability to obtain more without sacrifice.
In order to be better than the Joneses, concentrate on the following:
A house ……………… Is a beautiful home.
Success ……………… does not have to be measured by money.
Children like material things……………………… but they need love, support and attention.
A car might define you on the outside……………………. but does it create joy and happiness on the inside?
A couple that never argues, gets cross or even jealous is a couple that is existing in body……………………… not living and loving with their heart and soul.
Life is not all about smiles, hearts and fireworks all the time. It is about being honest and true to yourselves so that the smiles, hearts and fireworks pop out of nowhere when you least expect it.
Sit back and take a good look at your values, my guess is that you are already the Joneses, you just never realized it.
“If you can’t do anything about it, then let it go. Don’t be a prisoner to things you can’t change” – Tony Gaskins