We all know that the hot topic at the moment is our South African Government and President Zuma. Ordinarily I stay far away from Politics because we are taught that Politics and Religion are two areas that you do not embrace unless you are looking for trouble. After watching the Sona, State of the Nation Address and then the State of the Nations Debate, I sat back feeling an overwhelming sense of concern. The more I watched, the more annoyed I became, and all of a sudden It dawned on me, the problem was not the issues that they were all fighting for. This time it was different, this time it went way beyond the obvious and reaches out and shook every Mommy cord within me. The problem is that everyone seems to have forgotten the basic rules and morals that make us socially acceptable people. Yes, Manners Maketh Man. What has happened to the basic rules of society regardless of what your race or culture is. I ask with tears in my eyes, where are their Manners?
MANNERS MAKETH MAN
This long standing motto that derives from William or Wykeham in 1324, Stands for politeness, etiquette and charity that society is saved from falling into a heap of savagery. He stood for the belief that manners are the basis of our society. For those of you who are not sure who William was, he was an English prelate and statesman, who founded a college at both Oxford and Winchester. He served as chancellor of England and bishop or Winchester from 1324 – 1404.
Back to our beloved Country. We love it here, we love living in South Africa, it provides everything that we want for our children. Yes, it has its problems, but what country doesn’t? The good far out ways the bad when it comes to quality of life. Yet what are we teaching our Children?
If our children were in a class room and behaved like our leaders, their behaviour would be unacceptable. There would be a worldwide out cry about the way they have been raised and what their future holds for them if anything at all.
Let’s Roll Play for a second:
The children sit in the class, the teacher announces that today they will be covering the topic natural disasters. There in the front row sit Jessy, Mohamed, Tommy, Amahle, Mary, Shivanie, Tumie and Tim. As the teacher begins her lesson, Tommy shouts out above her “Miss, Miss,” she continues to speak and so does Tommy continue to shout above her, “Miss, Miss,” she acknowledges Tommy and lets him speak. Tommy,” Miss, what time is break, I’m hungry.” The teacher responds, “yes Tommy I do understand, but now is not the time to discuss break time, at the moment we are speaking about natural disasters.” Yet Tommy continues to shout at her, which then spurs off Mary, Shivanie, Tumie and Tim who begin to follow suit, “Miss, Miss, Miss”. While these children are carrying on there in the second row from the back is Rodger who is slouched backwards on his chair, fast asleep, showing little or no regard for the fact that someone was talking to the class in the first place. This kind of behaviour is unacceptable. You can ask any school child as young as 5, if they think that acting in such a manner would be appropriate and they will all tell you ABSOLUTELY NOT. See the thing is that no matter the age, race, status, or culture of these children, they have all been brought up with one thing in common. THEY HAVE BEEN TAUGHT MANNERS AND APPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR.
How on earth can we expect our children to have manners and act appropriately when they watch their leaders, the people responsible for running our country behaving in such a way. Shame on you!
Just in case Society have forgotten, her are a list of Manners Everyone Should Know
- When asking for something, say “Please.” And When receiving something, say “Thank you.”
- Do not interrupt people who are speaking to each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.
- If you do need to get somebody’s attention right away, the phrase “excuse me” is the politest way for you to enter the conversation.
- When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later.
- Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of others.
- Do not comment on other people’s physical characteristics unless, of course, it’s to compliment them, which is always welcome.
- When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.
- Knock on closed doors — and wait to see if there’s a response — before entering.
- When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.
- Use a quiet voice inside, especially in places like restaurants.
- Don’t call people mean names.
- Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others, you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.
- Even if an event is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best.
- If you bump into somebody, immediately say “Excuse me.”
- Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don’t pick your nose in public.
- As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.
- When someone asks you to do something, try to do it without grumbling and with a smile. You have a right to say no, you should be polite and offer a good reason if you do. If someone asks you to do something that feels dangerous or wrong, it’s okay to say no and you don’t have to keep it to yourself.
- Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask someone to teach you or watch what people you respect do.
- Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.
- Don’t reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.
- Chew with your mouth closed.
- If you hurt someone, say “I’m sorry” and try to find a way to make it better. Don’t hurt people on purpose
- Don’t try and speak above people. When they are speaking, wait your turn.
- Never address a person as; she, her, he; him or it.
- Don’t use people’s things without permission.
- Respect and Treat others the way you’d like to be treated.
I understand that politics is a cut throat game that requires Our Leaders to be strong enough to deal with conflict and to argue their point across. All I ask is that we remember that our future leaders, our Children are watching you closely and if you don’t have manners, well why should they.