Somebody stop the clock!
My husband and I were chatting the other day, when he asked me who was hosting Christmas this year, and it hit me that we are already on the downward slide towards the end of the year. There are only 128 days left till Christmas!!!
I had so much planned for this year and now it is almost over. Where did the time go? I got so caught up in the demands that each day brought that I forgot to stick to the game plan. In January we sit and decide what we would like to achieve this year. What holidays we would like to go on, what outings we want to do as a family. We decided that this year we wanted to spend more time at the beach and then life happened and somewhere along the line I was wading through Motherhood without a GPS. Or maybe with one that kept saying re-calculating, re-calculating.
It is time to regroup, don’t give up just yet, there are still 4 full months left of the year. So where to start?
Step one: Pull out the diary and fill in all the important dates that still remain this year, including school holidays, exam time table, yearly check-ups that have not been booked. Christmas plays. Birthdays, end of year functions etc.
Step two: Look at your typical day and week and see what is time consuming that you can ditch. There are always items that seem to sneak into our day that are not necessary. Go back to the KISS rule: KEEP IT SIMPLE SILLY. Always remember it is ok to say No. If you are asked to do something that will have a negative impact on you, it is better to say No than spend time wondering why you said Yes.
Step three: It is time to budget, you know that December is expensive, so don’t wait till the last minute. Start putting together a list of teachers that you will need to buy gifts for. Write down the name of each family member that you give gifts to and next to their name, put down any ideas of what you would like to get them and an estimated cost. It is much easier to stay on target when you know what you are looking for. Start to purchase items now, 1 or 2 items is not going to put a huge dent in your pocket, but it will save the December budget disaster.
Step four: look at the items that you wanted to achieve this year and why you have not achieved them yet. Have a good look whether it is possible to still achieve them, and give yourself a deadline. I find it amazing how the second half of the year seems to be the hardest, least motivation time. I am not sure if it is winter that slows us into a hibernation mode or if deep down we are just too timed to care. The spark that we started the year with definitely does not shine as bright towards the end of the year. Get your spark back. Stay focused on your goals and achievements, if you are in control you will be a much better Mother.
Step five: Live each day to the full, don’t let life’s hectic pace take away what is most precious to you. Spend quality time with those you love, laugh a lot. Be the best you can be. Life is not about how hard you can hit back, but how many times you can get hit and keep moving forward. If you know what you are worth, go out and get what you are worth. The choice is yours. Every day we leave a mark behind us. What kind of a mark did you make today?
In life we get to choose if we want to write our story in pen or pencil. Writing in pen is permanent and everyone can see where you crossed out your mistakes, it is a bold, confident move and usually only looks good after years of practice. If you choose to write in pen, ensure that you are not continually crossing out the same mistakes. If you choose to write in pencil, that is ok because you are comfortable with the fact that you are still learning, and may need to rub out your mistakes, or even rub out the whole page and start again. Just remember that if you are writing in pencil, it is ok for a while, but you are not leaving behind a bold story, and it takes a lot longer to keep on rubbing out the page and starting again.